What a loaded question- Are you successful? I struggle with this idea of being successful ALL the time. I don’t think there isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think to myself-
“Am I doing enough?”
“Am I providing for my family?”
“Do my kids need something more?”
“Am I being the wife my husband needs?”
“Is my business where it should be?”
Some days I feel on top of the world and say “YES!” to all of those questions, but lets be real, that is not my normal response. I am full of guilt most days that I didn’t give enough. I hear women and moms talk about Mommy Guilt all the time and it’s a real thing. I know I struggle with this and no matter what I do, it doesn’t go away. I have come to realize that the more I compare myself to other working moms, homeschooling moms, or other successful women around me, the harder I am on myself. I want to do more like them, I want to look more like them, I want my family to look more like their’s. What a dangerous place to be!
Why do we feel the need to do that? Why does the question of success stem from what others are doing? Shouldn’t the question be- Am I more successful today than I was yesterday? Was I better Mom today than I was yesterday? Did I do something better for my clients today than I did yesterday? INSTEAD of- Did I measure up to other people’s standards? I am firm believer that God has given us everything we need to be “successful” with the things He wants for us. So lets focus on the things He has for us, and stop wasting our time comparing our lives to other people’s.
Here is a peak into a few of my “successes-” also known as my children! Whatever life choices I make I make for them and for our family- here are a few of their school photos I never shared! Oops- better late than never!